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The Myths of Self Confidence

What does the term Self confidence really mean? We have noticed that there are many misconceptions. A self confidence is not a scarcity meaning that if you have a solid self confidence it robs others from having it. I doesn’t mean either that you take someone else’s self confidence, everyone needs to develop it by themselves. We claim that it is better for you the more people you know that have a solid self confidence than the opposite. 

Even in disagreements it is definitely self confidence to say what you need to say and listen with respect to what the other person has to say. This way you both show respect to the other person and you show self confidence that you can handle what the other person is saying to you. You can handle it in a calm manner without freaking out. 

You can rush into a wall with your head and believing that you will make it but that is not a rational thing to do. So is that what we are talking about here, no. No foolish or dangerously crazy thing at all. Self confidence is a mature, solid and acquired trait, like a skillset that is acquired thorough in depth study and practice. 

Self confidence is the belief that you will figure things out along the way. You know that you will find solutions along the way. You don’t need everything figured out since things can change along the way. You know that there is no guarantees but that doesn’t freak you out. You know that you have faced uncertainty before so you kind of count on that pieces will fall into its places as you go. You also know that you can ask for help and that a smart team is a good idea to team up with in details that is too time consuming for you to know by heart.  

Self confidence is so much more and we have our Live Speeches about this so follow us on social media and subscribe to our Newsletters so you don’t miss out on our The Myths of Self Confidence Speeches coming soon in English and in Swedish in Stockholm. 

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We contribute with knowledge. We have 20 years experience within Business, included 15 years as a Business Executive both as entrepreneur and as consultant. With this experience we have put the nuggets of it into pre-recorded Business Educations and into our Mentorship Program. We also have coaching options, both pre-recorded for the basics and customised 1:1 IRL Online options to your Success. We all ought to know the importance of a coach. 

If you’re into Sports or Music

If you’re into sports you know the importance of a Coach. The same if you’re into the Music Industry you know the importance of a Manager (the actual Business is included there)

It’s about team efforts and the skill of Leadership. It’s not a one man or woman show, never, A-players know they need other A-players. Period.

To our opinion someone who is an A-player has A-players highly involved into the core business of everything. We encourage anyone with a gift or a wish to get an expert into your specific area of expertise and don’t take it for granted. Practice and really become that expert that you want to be, you can do it with the help of self confidence. We help you get that and to map out your plan to get it within your reach in whatever field you’re into if you put your mind to it. We have done much ourselves so we know what we are talking about. This is what we contribute with to help you to step up and step into your best version of yourself since you will need it to reach your goals. 

So if you want to man up or woman up within your Career, Projects and within Business we have created these high ticket packages for your Success. 

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Attention Magnet – a cost and a privilege

Watch out, here is someone who is seeking validation. Really? it’s not the 90’s anymore. 

Today in the digital area due to a lot of distractions it’s not that easy to reach out on the market and navigate to find your segment of customers. It’s a tough challenge and the market is international. Keeping up with the latest hashtags and dos and don’ts is also quite time consuming for digital creators. 

It is nothing to be jealous about since it is far from only praise that content creators receive as reactions. The consequences of getting themselves out in the spot light online can be a struggle to manage. And it is not your closest friends and family that supports you either. It is more often completely strangers that resonate to your content and appreciate what you are sharing and contributing with online. 

What do you want to accomplish with putting yourself out online is an important question to manage before you start with your online business. Who am I is always an important question? What do I not want to be associated with or what values is another important question. Marketing managers often talks about a Social Media Strategy and that is a really good idea to really plan out what you want to communicate on the market. 

If you make it, whatever it is for your online business it is a good idea again to plan for what you expect and what you want from it. It is also important to have a perspective that you really contribute with something. You are adding value of some sort. Then you know who you are and what you stand for, you have a clear vision and Brand identity as a solid foundation. This will help you when storms arise in the horizon of some kind. You are prepared. You have done your research and know how to deal with it and will not panic. 

Attention can give cause to jealousy and even hatred and feels unfair. Remember to focus on those who appreciate what you contribute with and talk to someone who can help you how to deal with the negative aspect of this so you don’t take on too much on yourself and lose energy from it. 

How to regain strength in Strong Minded Missions is one of our 1:1 Coaching options where we help you to navigate through and regain strength again and find the joy again in whatever struggle you may meet within business. Also marketing educations pre-recorded options and IRL coaching about your Brand – in Link in bio.

Who do You need to become to Reach your Goals? 

Stay true to yourself

What is your values? Don’t forget who you are. Stay true to yourself. This is famous and useful words. You need to decide who you are and who you are not, what is non negotiable. You don’t want to reach your end goal betraying yourself because it won’t be worth it. Staying true to yourself and your values is very important. This goes hand in hand with self esteem. You need to treat yourself kindly and understand that you need You to take you where you want to go. 

“I cannot fool myself, I will know deep down if I don’t put in the work or if I am no true to myself. I will beat myself up and condemn myself not worthy. I need to be true to myself and stick to my values.”

Private You

Some don’t understand what this means. You don’t bring your worst mood poisoning every social setting with you attitude and destructive demonstrative behavior. Even without saying a word you can sabotage a social setting with your body language since body language is about 70% of your communication. At home in private with yourself you sit down and journal what you are upset about, angry about or what it is that is bothering you. Are you eating healthy food, sleep well and exercise enough, getting fresh air, meeting friends and socializing with close ones? It’s on you how you manage your feelings, that is the starting point. 

What is your part in a disagreement? What can you learn from it? How can you become better to communicate when you disagree? Do you always have to have an opinion on every topic? Can you chose topics of your expertise and have a constructive and intelligent opinion saying things in a calm manner? Everyone else is not your psychologist, therapist or close friend and companion. If you take care of yourself first you will manage disagreements and other people more successfully. Socializing is interacting with other people using people skills that you need to reach your goals in life.  

Pic a character who you need to be for the social arena you interact on

You can pick character traits from different role models to customize what you need to reach your goals and become the person you need to become. 

Like an artist when they enter the stage like flick of a switch becomes the person in the role they need to be on stage. It’s like stepping into the shoes of who I need to be and become to get where I want to go. Pic a character who you need to be for this particular assignment.

This will help you when you have a bad day since you know who you need to step into to deliver what you need to do. And you will not be so driven by your feelings since you know who you need to be to deliver. You need to have a professional You on the social arenas you interact on. 

This is a strategy of Motivation that will help you in the social settings you are interacting in navigating to reach your goals in life. You are not alone, you interact with others who also is on their journey. People skills will help you to enjoy the journey and not being miserable along the way to your goals.

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Celebrate your Small Wins as a Money Strategy

A Cappuccino on the go is on the list of choices that you may exclude from your shopping behavior in times of uncertainty. 

I don’t buy coffee on the go, it’s for free where I work. 

Great, but do you beat yourself up for having to choose the for free option discussing with yourself that you need to raise your income to not have to bother about a cup of coffee and other things? 

What else can you stop buying to decrease your spendings in tough times?

Do you need alcohol to manage your stress to be able to calm down? This is a dangerous path and you know it. Do you really stay calm because of alcohol? 

The choices is endless and the point is that in times of financial difficulties you want to buy things that means more to you than lots of cups of cappuccino. 

If it will get more difficult financial times you will not have to regret why you bought so much rubbish whatever rubbish is to you. 

Instead of a view of lack of resources there is another way 

Reward yourself with a Cappuccino or what else you enjoy that will make your work week feeling better. Make a Financial Crisis plan for how much you will spend and how much money that will save you. If you buy one Cappuccino each week, celebrating your work week on Friday instead of five-ten cups a week you will save a lot of money in one year right?

Make a plan for goals along the way that you want to achieve, even what you consider to be small wins each day and each week and keep it on your mobile phone and remind yourself daily of your assignment. 

Add more long term goals what you will celebrate with when you have succeeded with this method for a month. Decide in advance of what reward you will give yourself and celebrate with your close ones. There is room for generosity even in tough financial times. It will mean a lot to both you and the one who receives the generosity. It can be in terms of time as well, having a cup of coffee at home talking about shared plans and how to reach them together is generosity in terms of time.  

To use a spread sheet on an app on your mobile phone is a good idea. You will remind yourself of your plan and will see your progress. Review each week what you have accomplished and pep talk yourself to stay on this plan you have decided upon. Also view other areas in your life how you can decrease spendings especially on impuls and don’t beat up yourself just because you don’t have unlimited funds to meet your impulses. 

A smart person take precautions and seeks advise how to manage a tough financial situation since it is easy to feel blind folded even if you don’t want to admit it. It is easy to get frustrated that you haven’t come up with a solution for it yet. 

Don’t buy out of feeling sorry for yourself

To decrease ones shopping budget in tough times it is important not to buy things or experiences out of comfort, feeling sorry for yourself or justifying that you are worth it. 

It is better to buy things to celebrate even your small wins as a Money Strategy to save money at the same time. This will work as a reward system instead of punishing yourself with negative thoughts draining you of energy and adding feelings of failure. 

Doing things at home instead of buying from companies is also a way to save money and you can easily motivate yourself the way just mentioned. Choose to support local businesses instead of international giants is another way to do good and be generous to others if your finances allow it. 

We are highly into the thinking to Reward Yourself as a strategy to Reach Life Goals and we have teamed up with some interesting brands. For instance have your own home spa instead of expensive clinic visits or combine it making fewer visits and still support the local businesses. Also taking care of yourself with minerals is also one way to boost yourself to stay strong. Check out our page to Reward Yourself. Link in the menu.

And if you really want to raise your income we have Coaching options to Reach your Life Goals and Business Educations to help you to be on top of your game for the long run. All combined in our Mentorship Program. Links in menu.

How to scale up and when to scale down

1. First you have to see in what state of mind and physics are you?

Do you have the strength, energy and resources to scale up your business or projects now?

Is it better to wait? If a crisis happen, a loved one dies or get sick so you get a lot of pressure upon you. Or you are in the middle of having small children, what can you do? What brakes can you hit?

2. Make an action plan to really brain storm what you are waiting for and what you already have. Prioritize what is crucial and important. What is impossible to postpone or wait with? What is urgent? Write down everything that comes to you mind and then sort it into different categories of importance. The most obvious is also important to write down so you don’t forget anything. Don’t get paralyzed. The whole idea to write things down is that you will not get stuck in a dead end loop starting all over again with your thoughts. You empty yourself of heavy emotions as well during this exercise of journaling. 

3. What resources do you have now to manage this crisis? If you are running your business alone, who is your trusted advisor? Have a network of experienced and likeminded people in your network. Many may be in the same situation or have been. Business isn’t easy and much can happen in life that can turn things upside down. Within your business it is a good idea to listen to those with experience but also to the new ones that may have a lot of new insights that is not formed by your company yet. Write down what you can do by yourself and what you can ask others to help you with. You feel more confident since you have a plan, are taking important steps, taking responsibility and you are not alone. 

A second opinion from a trusted friend is so important since stress can really cloud your judgement. Make sure that this friend has the experience and knowledge to give you the advise in this matter. There is no room for personal opinions in matters that is totally unknown to the one that is giving the advise. Many times you know what others you know well would say even without asking them so they will guide you anyway. And how do your previous experience fit in in this situation? To ask for an opinion in a matter is not the same as following that advise. Don’t promise or decide anything only based on an instant feeling, think it through. We have another blog post about Decision making, check that out and also our first published book, link in the menu.  

4. Identify what impact different decisions of yours will have in both the short and the long run. Have you missed anything important? Start with the basics with the business and it is important that you as the captain of the ship stay strong and can see things strait. Remember not to panic, you need you to survive tough times in private life and within business since others are depending on you, and you need you. We can help you to fuel yourself with motivation to keep going with our coaching options, link in menu.

5. If you don’t give up things can quite quickly and unexpected turn out really well. Exhausting though. So you need to keep your senses and focus on what is important. Decide upon what you will focus on and act upon that plan as your crisis agenda. It is on your shoulders and you can manage high pressure. We have 1:1 customized IRL coaching to help you to cope with really tough challenges and how to manage it without getting totally drained by it. Links in the menu and contact us for more information.

6. First is of course to make sure that you or your company are floating. You can swim without a life west in the water for a short while figuratively speaking. To realize that it is tough times business wise will help you to make better decisions and make more rational decisions than decisions based on feelings. If you cut the unnecessary costs you can put your focus on what would really help your business to be stronger and also to flourish despite tough times. Sort the costs you have in different categories and determine what is important and less important. Also discuss this with your trusted advisors. Some costs will help you to get more revenues so you need to investigate and analyze what you need. The priority is of course so put down efforts on Revenue Generating Activities, to as a first step survive and then scale up from there balancing your costs with your revenues.  

7. What else can you do? Is there something that you have thought about before but not tried, something that might give you revenues that you need? Can you cooperate with others, since if the crisis is a market condition then others are suffering or facing the same or similar problems that you do. Can you collaborate in a joint venture project together to be stronger during this challenge and be stronger together? Joint ventures is a good idea for short term collaborations since you keep your own company and work together in projects. Write agreements what to do and not to, contact us for advise on Joint ventures. Think of every possible different scenario to really empty your mind of your wildest thoughts. This will help you and you will see that you will come up with some really great ideas. Journal and journal and you will see that you will get fantastic ideas. Sort this ideas into a plan and see how they can come together and turn out to be your rescue plan for both you and your business. 

Find out more inspiration in our other blog posts and contact us for more, also check out the links in the menu to see what we can help you with our solid experience.  

Imagined Safe Zones are stopping you

Safe zones – we cling on to them when it gets turbulent round us. But is it really a safe zone? It is about my behavior that I need to really analyze how I react and what I do. Sometimes you surprise yourself about your reactions and wonder, where did that come from? If you feel threatened or attacked what is your instant respons? I like the saying that you cannot change other people. In other words you cannot change other peoples reactions but you are responsible to manage your own. Very useful when you manage a disagreement to handle your feelings and your attitude the way you want it to be. Also a good idea is to set up boundaries for yourself how to react in different situations. 

Without thinking it through it is quite common to confuse a safe zone with a sort of safe haven, a place of refuge or security. Not everywhere is safe to be especially nowadays. So this is about taking needed precautions in your life to stay safe what reasonable measures we can make. 

A safe zone can also change and you can develop safe zones automatically when you feel threatened or get afraid, this happens kind of on autopilot within us. Like for a child they feel safe everywhere and their parents need to safe guard their child. Later the child will realize that there is danger to get yourself out of, to run away from to be able to escape danger. If you stay there and don’t realize that it is not a safe space any longer you might get hurt really badly. And when things happen round you it is often a good idea to create or put yourself in a safe zone to feel safe again. After a crisis has happened you need to negotiate with yourself to dare to get out of that safe zone again and so to speak meet the world again.

Try to identify what your safe zones are in your everyday life. Also recall what safe zones you have had during your childhood and also if there had been different safe zones during your life as a grown up. A safe zone has conditions tied to it, trust is there, peace its there and it is a place or condition where you feel that you can be relaxed and be yourself and no harm will happen there. It is in some ways tied to our self confidence. After a while you feel confident to leave the created safe zone and explore the world again. You grow out of your previous safe zone and don’t need it anymore or you go there literally speaking less often than before. 

If we stay in a safe zone too long it will limit us quite much. Years can pass and you kind of don’t get yourself out of that spot whatever it can be. So a safe zone can limit you and your life if it is an imagined safe zone that your are stuck in. The danger is gone, your safe zone has served its purpose long time ago. You are safe and need to outgrow this safe zone since reality is something different now. Not everything is bad just because everything is not the way it used to be. The past few years have really changed much and we need to make an honest analysis to see what we need to change. We can adapt but it is important to feel that some things you chose to adapt to and others not. You need to feel that you have some sense of control in your life, this is very important. People change and so can you. Choose what to change is our message. 

We know that we have so much within us if we start to build ourselves up with good habits, choose them wisely. We create new habits by repeating them over and over again and by kicking out the bad habits. First you of course need to make an honest analysis of yourself and identify what is a bad habit that is blocking you from progress and blocking you from reaching your goals in life. 

We have both pre-recorded coaching options for the basics and also 1:1 IRL customized more in-depth coaching options for you to your success in whatever field you are in. 

Comfort zone have never gotten anyone anywhere. 
A comfort zone is often an imagined comfort zone.
We will guide you out of it. 

Customize Good habits and Identify Bad habits in our pre-recorded coaching – How to Keep a winner’s Mindset – and contact us for more suggestions and information – links in menu. 

Problem Scanning

In stressful times there is easy to get distracted by a lot of problems. The problems can seem to grow on you and you loose a lot of energy almost making you paralyzed. To ignore problems isn’t going to help you at all, since the reality will sneak up on you or at its worst overwhelm you with bad consequences. To think about consequences might scare you even more so you pretend that it is ok when all the warning signs is actually on red alert in front of you.  

You can become so distracted that you hesitate or stop making decisions. 

To make Problem Scanning into a good habit is a much better approach in your everyday life. 

Always a good thing to have a journal with you and write in your journal all kinds of problems or issues that crosses your mind during the day. Then after the days work you can sort the problems into categories and prioritizing them. You kind of cozy up with the problems, face your fears actually. You will see that some problems or issues is repeating themselves in your everyday thoughts. 

You will identify what you are actually spending time on thinking wise. These topics need a two pager of its own and a bit of investigation. Write down what you are afraid about when facing these issues. Write down worst case scenarios and try to see if it is reasonable or not to have these fears. 

On the other hand you might discover approaches and solutions to these problems that you have perhaps used on other problems before in you life. Or you realize that you can try that specific approach and see what happens. 

Problems seldom disappear by itself. It happens and then write down that milestone of yours. 

And when you see that you can handle or approach a problem and it helps you to reduce your stress, celebrate that feeling and also write that down as an accomplishment. 

It is important that you write down your journey with the problems so to speak since it will show you that you are managing and solving problems in you life. You are not just adding problem to your life. This is very important for your self esteem. To ignore warning signs caused by problems is not a wise thing to do. To practice up habits to act and solve things while they are still minor problems is a good idea instead of being blind folded and being stuck with a really huge problem that perhaps is causing more problems. 

If you have serious problems piling up in you life because you have ignored them or hoped that they will disappeared, and they haven’t – it is really time to use the Problem Scanning method to really see clear where to start and take action. Doing what can be done is a huge difference than giving up.

This approach is applicable to all areas in life, including your health, your finances, your relationships, your everyday life actually. We all have areas that we are more skilled at an other areas that we are not skilled at. Areas that is causing us literally head ache or serious stress reactions we really need to learn how to cope with in a more skilled way. 

Stop doing things the hard way draining you of energy and joy. Even minor changes in your diet, your sleeping habits, your attitude towards life and gratitude can make a huge difference and adding you the energy you need to solve your problems. Problems usually don’t go away by them selves. You need to solve them and you can become a really good problem solver instead of becoming a victim of problems. See them as challenges that you can overcome since they are in your path they are yours to challenge. Overcoming challenges will make you very strong and will prevent you from feeling victimized. 

What is worse, feeling strong because of challenges or being defeated not even trying to solve them? At least you have actually tried and you have the proof of it written down in your journal and that will give you a higher self esteem since you have faced your fears and fought your battles and for sure have solved a lot of problems in you life and found relief and a sense of victory. 

Problem Scanning is a great tool for your everyday life. 

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7 Rules to improve Your Business Week Life

  • Focus on your Revenue Generating Activities
  • Block Time to Reflect & Analyze to Identify what’s slowing you down 
  • Block Time for New Insights & add Knowledge as Inspiration to your Alert Mind
  • Say no to what’s distracting or disturbing you – schedule your work days ahead & teach your family & friends what your schedule is & auto reply ”can I call you back later” – this way you will avoid anxiety by being Present & you will Prioritize more skillfully
  • Plan leisure time ahead & be Present & share the Joy with your close ones
  • Network with likeminded people that understand your Journey & the Challenges it brings
  • Appreciate Each day, Eat & drink healthier, eat Smaller portions & Exercise every day

    This way You will train yourself both mentally & knowledge wise to do things in much Smarter ways together with Joy

Get out of Negativity & other Blocks

We do things on Autopilot, habits we have created since childhood and later in life. To break bad habits is often viewed as difficult but we love the saying that it is more difficult being stuck.

Bad habits is habits that prevent you from living the life you want to live or is limiting you in any way, so called Blocks. 

Negativity is definitely something we recommend you to get out of and we have some advise how to do that. 

One thing is to write things off you mind so to speak, to Journal. Do that every day and you will notice a difference if you do the work with it. 

Take a new Journal and open it so you have two opposite pages to write on. 

  • Write on one page what you are grateful for, whatever comes to your mind. 
  • On the opposite page write what you are disappointed about, or sad about, mad about. 

Remember that you only have one page to write on! This way you will restrict yourself thinking too much negativity and you will practice self disciplin actually. 

You will also see how much negativity versus gratefulness your current state is. This can really be an eye opener. You can put circles in different colors round words that you see you can change here and now, and things that is more important than others. 

  • Read the grateful page before you go to bed and also when you wake up in the morning. 

Have this journal with you so you can see it through out the day. 

  • Repeat this every day with new pages each day. After a couple of days you will see that your words of gratitude have increased and the words of negativity is fewer words. 

Continue with this and you may identify areas in your life that you need to change to get rid of that state of mind. This will most certainly require that you create new good habits instead of bad habits that is causing this negative feelings or state of mind. Also move ahead and make a schedule on what you put down your time on – make a Time Management Budget!

More about how to customize Your New Good Habits in our different Mindset Coaching options & more – pre-recorded & IRL 1:1

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